The hardest thing about lending people money — helping them out when they really needed it — is that you have to constantly ask for it back.
Some have borrowed and simply broken off contact ($7k down the tubes, and I’m the bad guy somehow).
for loan oft loses both itself and friend
Most people are openly good about it, just… you helped then in an old leaky boat, the leak is fixed, but the boat is still old and leaky not gonna turn a profit to repay.
borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry
I know, it’s just money, which is like a score to show you’ve worked and deserve to purchase a cookie. It’s just a number, and we should focus on other things. As an aside, it’s the borrowers or the super-rich telling you that.
…but all my life, even before paying the extra share on a shared PC as a teenager, I’ve been the guy people assume will foot the bill. At a big dinner, it’s nice to pay the cheque, it feels like the boss, but that’s a choice not taken for granted.
The assumption gets tiring. The asking gets tiring. The borrowers fleeing gets tiring. Being punished for lending gets tiring. I guess that’s a facet of friends “their adoption tried” towards being “select [yet] generous”.